Many years ago I felt that my life was stuck in autopilot and not really going anywhere, so I got to thinking how could I change things around.
I worked on many aspects of life and strategies to change, but the one thing that has stayed with me for over 10 years are 3 commitments I made to myself.
Back then I thought it was important to consider the person I wanted to become, what I wanted to achieve and how I wanted others to perceive me.
I gathered the list together and moved on to thinking how can I make this happen, what do I need to do?
Then it hit me… I needed to make some personal commitments to myself. Commitments that I would read everyday, that would become part of my everyday thinking, everyday decision making and everyday actions. I needed to build some new habits in my life.
Here they are:
1. Commitment To Continuous Learning
I made the commitment to continuous learning as I thought that by continuously looking to learn and improve, I would be always progressing and growing as a person.
To be honest, when I started out I didn’t have too many things I wanted to learn about!
But the beauty about learning is that as you learn, new interesting idea’s and subjects are thrust upon you all the time.
Just recently I was listening to a podcast where someone mentioned the Dvorak keyboard, a Qwerty alternative that is supposed to improve efficiency and reduce repetitive strain injuries.
My interest in something I’d not heard of before, or couldn’t remember hearing of, was born and straight away I was researching it online.
I’ve now changed all the keys on my keyboards around and am on with learning the new layout… and typing much slower, but you get my point.
Continuous learning will take your life in directions you never thought you’d go, or even heard yet heard of. As you learn you will connect with a wide variety of people, thus increasing your network.
Your breadth of communication and vocabulary increases.
Ultimately your skills and knowledge increase, which bring higher levels of confidence and success.
2. Commitment To Looking For Solutions
This commitment was borne out of my desire to combat worry.
As a young man there always seemed to be something I had could be worrying about, and I tried a whole range of things to stop this.
It was only when I realised that the only way to really combat worry was to tackle it head on, that I started to see worries as an important alarm signal that I could take advantage of.
Instead of constantly worrying for hours on end, over a period of time I developed my brain to immediately move into solutions mode.
As soon as I realised a worry was consuming my thoughts, I would ask myself a series of important questions…
What is this worry really all about?
What is causing me to worry about this?
Is the worry really worth the alarm level I’m giving it?
What is the worse that will happen if this worry becomes a reality?
What actions do I need to take to ensure my worry is removed?
Immediately the initial sense of dread and stress when a worry surfaced was substituted for positive solution based thinking.
Positive solution based thinking breads excitement and encouragement that you are improving your situation and taking control of your life.
As this habit grows within you, your worries become less severe as your new commitment is providing you with better results.
The decision to focus on a solution to the worry you were experiencing last week, means that you are in a much better place and your new worries are much smaller than they could otherwise have been.
It’s a life changer… Give it a try!
3. Commitment To Living In The Present
There are a few reasons that this commitment is important to me.
First it follows on nicely from my previous commitment, the commitment to looking for solutions.
Living in the present for me means looking at the future, seeing where you want to be and then putting actions into place now to make these desires a reality.
It’s about taking actions now that will guarantee the future you want.
Again, this has helped me take control of my future. I am much more aware of what I want, and what I need to do today.
Our actions today, determine the future we live (Click to Tweet!).
Second, I think it’s important to understand where you are in your present life and compare how far you have come.
It’s an opportunity to see how far you’ve grown, time to give yourself a big pat on the back for your commitment to life improvement.
It’s also a chance for being thankful.
It seems that many of us take things for granted and don’t take the time to be thankful for what we currently have.
Taking time to appreciate your present situation, provides you with a good opportunity to take stock of what you have in life and be thankful.
Take time to be thankful for your kids, husband, wife, car, house, health…. Anything that makes you smile.
You’ve worked hard to get where you are, now is the time to be thankful and enjoy what you have.
I expected my life commitments to change, but these have stuck with me.
Maybe I was just lucky in choosing three that helped me take control.
Either way, I encourage you to do the same exercise I did 10 years ago.
Look at who you want to be, what you want to achieve and how you want you want your reputation to be viewed by others.
Then spend time to develop three personal life commitments that will help you work towards your goals.
Review them daily, build the habit… lead the best life you can!
I’d love it if you would share your life commitments in the comments below, its always nice to see people starting on the same journey I took 10 years ago.
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